Flesh and Metal don’t mix…..

Sunday, January 22nd, 2012

In 1995, I was hit by a car as a pedestrian in New Orleans.  Details I learned from this accident (I have retrograde amnesia, a blessing from my brain) was that I flew 10 feet up in the air and landed in front of a taxi.  The fatality unit was called as I was presumed dead and apparently unrecognizable due to a huge brain hematoma.  The first thing I remember is waking up in a Tulane Universeity hospital room with disfiguring injuries, but miraculously alive.  Recovery was a long journey, but that is another story.

Since that time, I have wondered what my destiny is since few people live to tell a story of being hit by a car.  What is my path?  Am I living my potential? What choices am I making on this ‘borrowed time’ I have gratefully been given?   What legacy do I want to leave?

Questions we all need to ask on a daily basis.  What am I doing with this precious gift of time?

 

Mindfulness

Monday, January 31st, 2011

Yesterday, I listened to Jon Kabit Zinn on Public Radio. His message of ‘mindfulness’, of living in the present moment, is the ‘calling’ of our times.   His teachings on mindfulness as a vital method to heal our stressful lives are now a part of hospitals (NIH) and medical education, businesses (Google), as well as nonprofits, and government agencies.

One powerful statement that I want to share and intend to be a ‘mantra’ in my own life it that we are ‘running to our deaths, rather than opening to our lives.’

Now, the challenge is how to find the pathway to ‘open to our lives.’  Listen and learn from the present moment.  It holds the clue!!!

And they died on the same day…..

Sunday, October 17th, 2010

Just like a Russian fairy tale, Cher and John, our beloved friends of 25 years, died on the same day at the age of 53 from breast cancer.  Cher did everything right, mammograms, healthy diet, meditation, yoga, etc, but found a lump that was diagnosed as Stage 4 breast cancer.  She fought with grace and courage every step of the way, but after a grueling 18 months she was gone!

John fought with her, shaving his head when Cher lost her hair, going to every appointment and treatment.  He gathered friends around her and planned parties to celebrate her ‘good reports’ but he lived in disbelief and despair at the aggressiveness of this disease.

I accompanied them to as many treatments and doctors appointments as I could to offer my support, my presence.  Toward the end, I advocated my way into Hopkins busy schedule to get Cher a ‘gamma-knife’ treatment (can’t they change the name??!!) as a last effort, but it was too late.  Hospice angels came to our rescue. We decorated Cher’s room with flowers, prayer flags, incense, music.  Cher struggled to move her eyelids from the depths of her drugged body to answer my voice when I called her name.  John laid on the bed with her, holding her hand, keeping vigil.

After six days of hospice, she passed at 2:45 am on April 18, 2008. We were not there at the actual moment of her death, but raced to John when he called.  Upon our arrival, we were told by friends that John had taken ‘something to sleep and was resting’. Impatient to see John, we requested that they check on him.  Shockingly, no one could rouse John. We called 911, and they fought to save his life, rushed him to the ER where he was pronounced gone!

Did he take his life deliberately?  I don’t think so.  I believe he was so distraught that the prescription drugs he was taking along with sleeping meds caused his demise.

As I write this, I still can’t believe it happened.  Did I mention their two young adult daughters, 22 and 29?  That’s for another time……

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

Did you know…..

About 1 in 8 women in the U.S. will develop invasive breast cancer over the   course of her lifetime.  This represents 12% to 13% of all women!

An estimated 207,090 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed this year.

About 39,840 women in the U.S. are expected to die this year from breast cancer.

Every 69 seconds a woman dies of breast cancer.

This disease is an epidemic!  It must be stopped!

Have you heard….

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

I will be facilitating a Community Dialogue in Cheyenne, WY for the Corporation for National and Community Service.  This ‘listening’ session will gather the wisdom, knowledge, and recommendations from  service commissions, AmeriCorps/VISTA members, volunteer centers, nonprofits, foundations, and businesses for the Corporation’s Strategic Plan.

There will be a lot of listening, documenting and gathering of these voices of knowledge and experience that will inform and enlighten CNCS’s strategic guide.

Have you heard that the Serve America Act dramatically expands the field of national service and that ‘service’ now plays a major role in addressing communities’ most pressing problems!

Have you heard where the CNCS Community Dialogue will be in your state?   It is time to have your voice heard and to make a significant contribution to the agency that leads the service movement.

I am delighted to be part of the ‘Listening’ Sessions….for ‘Listening’ is one of the great marks of ‘Leadership’.

“It is the province of knowledge to speak. And it is the privilege of wisdom to listen.”    Oliver Wendell Holmes


Enlightened Leadership

Monday, August 9th, 2010

I watched with great joy as Elena Kagan joined the ranks of Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Sonia Sotomayor as a Supreme Court Justice.  This historic event makes the court more gender balanced and brings an ‘enlightened leadership’ to this esteemed institution. I feel great comfort and confidence when women are empowered to voice their values and their brilliance and to demonstrate their self-mastery which is critical to outstanding leadership.

A Woman’s Nation

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009

It is official…women make up 50 % of the workforce.  What does this mean? Please read the blog written by my daughter, Jessica Glenn, Communications Director for Workplace Flexibility 2010.   Yes, indeed, add women; change everything.

Workplace Flexibility

WHAT’S YOUR REACTION?

This week, Maria Shriver released a report on the status of women in America – and on the radical transformations that have taken place in our society as a result of women’s entrance into the workforce. “The Shriver Report: A Woman’s Nation Changes Everything” examines the tremendous impact women have in the 21st century economy. But it also reveals the implications of women’s changing economic status on the social and cultural institutions that define us – from government, business, and faith-based organizations to our individual communities and families.

The Shriver Report’s release is coinciding with National Work & Family Month – presenting us with an opportunity to look more critically at how workforce trends impact our personal and family lives. The Shriver Report begins by looking at one dramatic change: women now represent half of the American workforce. But as National Work & Family Month reminds us, the normative structures of our workplaces have failed to catch up with the full ramifications of that demographic shift, as well as others.

In an era when most families no longer have a person at home who can be tasked with dealing with ordinary life needs, there is often a serious mismatch between the workplace and the day-to-day realities of working families. The result is that many American workers struggle to succeed at work while meeting the demands of family – and a significant majority feel they fail to achieve either one very well.

At Workplace Flexibility 2010, we recognize that this issue impacts both women and men who are handling serious caregiving responsibilities – be it caring for young children, elderly parents or other loved ones, or both. More importantly, it is not just caregiving that causes employees to feel an acute strain between work demands and personal needs – it is felt by those who are experiencing their own serious or chronic health condition or disability; those who have lost much of their retirement savings and need to continue working; those who are facing the challenges of military deployment; those who are trying to enhance their skills with education while still holding a job; those who want to volunteer with their faith-based or community organizations, and beyond.

The struggle to balance work and home life is experienced by millions of working Americans across professions and income levels. Yet it is almost always painted as an individual problem that each employee or family must face alone.

We believe there must be a broader structural response – a societal movement toward policies and practices that allow employees to succeed in the workplace while also fulfilling serious personal and family responsibilities. We believe now is the time to develop a comprehensive workplace flexibility policy that meets the needs of both employers and families.

Workplace flexibility – an approach that promotes control and predictability over the scheduling of work hours, and includes options ranging from compressed workweeks and telecommuting to phased retirement and short and extended time off – can help employees meet the often competing demands of work and personal life. And it can work well across industries, professions and income levels, and in the public sector, in union settings, and in corporate America.

Increasing access to flexibility does more than support individual families. Workplace flexibility has real economic and community development benefits. Data suggests that flexibility significantly boosts productivity by keeping workers healthier – and that it cuts costs for employers by reducing turnover rates. Companies and municipalities across the country are using flexibility to save on real estate and energy costs and to ease traffic congestion, thereby reducing air pollution. Workplace flexibility not only results in better business; we believe it will create healthier communities – and help lay the foundation for a stronger, more resilient economy.

For many years, there has been a serious lack of cooperative, bipartisan leadership on issues at the intersection of work and family. But recently, we have seen a renewed interest in Washington on the need for increased workplace flexibility – and opportunities for dialogue that are moving us away from longstanding political stalemates around labor and employment law and toward solutions that make a difference for both employers and employees.

On Capitol Hill, a bipartisan Senate Study Group was formed by six Senators – three Democrats and three Republicans – who were interested in taking a closer look at the data on the need for workplace flexibility and in discussing potential bipartisan solutions that can address that need. That bipartisan study group has attracted Capitol Hill staffers from across committee jurisdiction and party. A National Advisory Commission on Workplace Flexibility, convened by Workplace Flexibility 2010, attracted high-level former political players from both parties and helped shape a comprehensive report on flexible work arrangements. Finally, this week, a diverse group of organizations, ranging from the United States Chamber of Commerce to the National Military Families Association to the National Partnership for Women and Families, will tell Hill staffers why flexible work arrangements matter to their constituencies.

Workplace flexibility is one of the priorities for the White House Task Force on Middle-Class Working Families and First Lady Michelle Obama’s Office. Indeed, at the Corporate Voices for Working Families Annual Meeting in May, Mrs. Obama called for a broad, national conversation on how we can best support working parents – particularly through policies providing sick leave, increased maternity leave, and flexible work arrangements.

Mrs. Obama’s call for increased workplace flexibility rings in harmony with Maria Shriver’s report. If women – and men, for that matter – are to reach their full potential in the workplace, then workplace structures must evolve to allow them full, meaningful participation in their families and communities. Our hope is that the Shriver Report will help spur a high-level, national conversation on the need to shift the structures of our workplaces to meet the realities facing working families today. Our goal at Workplace Flexibility 2010 is to move that conversation forward – toward common-sense public policy solutions that will weave workplace flexibility into the fabric of the American workplace.

The Big Apple

Thursday, October 8th, 2009

Looking out from the Marriott’s 29th floor window in NYC!  The city vibrates with energy and excitement.  We are here for work, however, will squeeze in a walk in Central Park…magnificent in the Fall.  I remember fondly my ‘fundraising’ events with Gloria Steinem.  We campaigned tirelessly for women’s rights, and Gloria attracted huge crowds to hear her powerful speeches.

And in reflecting on strong women, my own grandmother, Sofia, travelled from Italy to New York at the young age of 26 with two small children.  I admire her courage and resilience for what must have been a harrowing journey!  She lived a challenging life here with a total of 6 children, never fully integrating into this culture.

We have a very small coop here , (small as in 380 square feet, land yacht size) that is rented right now. It was our dream to move here at least for a few years to be ‘New Yorkers’ and live the fast-paced, culture-filled life of The Big Apple.   But change happens, and goals evolve.  However, these two strong women live in my heart and always make this a city I love.

Learning Lessons in ‘Grounding’

Monday, July 20th, 2009

At the most recent Philly VISTA PSO training, I broke the 5th metatarsal bone in my right foot by tripping on uneven pavement and saving myself from falling….the result a nasty injury that has me literally ‘grounded.’ The critical phase of treatment is 3 weeks of NO weight on the foot which means crutches, a boot cast, and no driving. Apparently, this ‘critical period’ makes the difference between healing completely or living with pain for the rest of my life. So, I sticking to my ‘grounding’ lifestyle.

What are the lessons to be learned from this ‘grounding’? My usual day is filled with caring for Mom, consulting and coaching clients, marketing for new clients, planning my daughter’s wedding, playing with grandchildren, exercising, making dinner with my husband, driving everywhere, etc….I often feel like a ‘hummingbird’ vibrating with energy and constant movement. I even talk fast….Well, life is very different now. I must move slowly, mindfully, navigating crutches and a 10 pound boot cast. Interesting, I am anchored by my own body, held still to heal, and aware of the tremendous opportunity that every challenge brings.

Meditation is always on my ‘to do’ list but never happens. What a priceless gift to make meditation a daily practice. Writing in my blog, a place to find my voice, is launched today with this first posting. Learning to just ‘listen’ rather than rushing in to solve the problem (easier to do now that I can’t rush anywhere). Being present in the moment rather than filling every moment with endless activities. Journaling to make everyday count. Gentle stretching and yoga to maintain tone and flexibility. Finally, remembering the calcium so necessary to protect our bones.

It takes three weeks to form a new habit so my ‘grounding’ prescription fits nicely with my intention to not just learn the lessons of being ‘grounded’ but to integrate them fully into the fabric of my daily life.

I’ll let you know how I do!

Stay well,
Janis